A Simple Learning Journey

To observe and learn, through life's little lessons and experiences. Simplicity.

Value Judgement

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As much as I often dislike it when people force their value judgements on us, today, I felt myself doing it. And I feel like I’m contradicting my current values that people should always try not to judge. And it feels a lot worse that I am able to realise consciously about what I am doing (compared to not feeling that what I was doing was basically judging someone else) – the exact opposite of what I “preach”.

It’s just quite hard to apply the ‘ice berg’ theory here when the issue on hand is a matter that is close to the heart.

I need time to adjust. It’s just a little way too much to take in in one night.

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April 8th, 2011 at 11:50 pm

Some Reflections & Some things that I am enjoying

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The last four months have zoomed past so quickly in the blink of an eye.

It has been mostly smooth sailing and filled with a lot of new responsibilities, new team dynamics and slightly higher expectations.

But every single day, there is so much to observe about ourselves, only if we took a little bit of our time to look inside of ourselves, to “take a seat back” and observe our own thoughts and thinking.

I’ve been getting quite a bit of negative vibes all around since the beginning of the new year. But that’s when I realised that I had to stop for a minute and start reflecting on all the good things that I’ve had in my life so far and how blessed I have been. That’s when I posted a little reminder on Facebook to myself that “When we stop counting our blessings, we stop being happy”.

On and off, I have been feeling a little grouchy and grumbly, especially when works gets frustrating and when the time of the month comes around. I found myself complaining and whiny with all the negative energy that I possess. However, when I start thinking about all the good things and how blessed I was, it felt a little better. And it was another good reminder for me not to take things for granted.

When we take things for granted, things somehow loses its magic. Like how at the start when KS first started dropping me off on the way to work, every time it was quite exciting (not the correct word to use), but it was not something I get everyday, and so it was like a present every morning. As the days passed, and it became an almost everyday thing, that little “magic” of getting that present every morning kind of lessened. Nevertheless, I keep reminding myself not to take it for granted and I should show every bit of appreciation I had to him everyday and every single time. I knew that it not only made me feel more blessed than ever, but also made KS feel appreciated (I hope!)

On and off, I complain of things that “should have been”. But in the process, I’ve learnt that those “should have beens” are just what they are. If there weren’t, then we would not be regretting and complaining about it.

That was one big take back from the annual spring cleaning exercise for my home.

A lot of things were “good to have” – like a super spankingly clean home, spotless and a clean and extremely well-organised storage room, squeakingly clean bathrooms and neat bedrooms. Those were quite impossible to achieve given that we only had 2 weekends (just about 1 saturday and 2 sundays before Chinese New Year). It was extremely useful to have helped my mom (the super confused, unfocused and lost perfectionist) to realise that the idealistically clean home was just a “good to have” given the resources (mainly TIME) that we had. And hence, we managed to convince ourselves that we will do the 20% of the stuff that mattered or made 80% of the difference to the overall cleanliness of the home. And for some obscure reason, the end result overall was tremendously satisfying. Mainly because we did those tasks that made most of the difference, and we had some sort of a focus. (Not that we were THAT focused, but at least, we manage to steer ourselves off those little things that didn’t matter as much).

I’m also extremely pleased with my ability to clear out most of the unused, unwanted bags out of my wardrobe – some were picked out by my aunts and I had 2 new ones which I bought but didnt use to my cousins whom I know will love it. Some my aunts picked up to give away to others. Now I feel like I’m only left with the essential bags and a few sentimental ones. The results were satisfying because I now know better what bags I have and I can rotate using those few bags I have left. It feels like I’ve made their existence worth the while and justified.

I’ve picked out and cleared out some my little boxes of “sentimental” materials of cards, letters and mementoes. Some I’ve packed into one box, waiting for my cousin to help scan so that I can throw some of these away after it’s done. And I would be paying my cousin for the work, so it feels like a win-win situation, and I feel quite good about it.

So far, my table top’s been kept rather clean. It’s not 100% without things, but at least I’ve got space every night to put my bags and jacket on it, without anything spilling over.  It’s quite different from the previous few years where KS described it as “a wall of stuff” and things spilling all over whenever I needed to look for something. That feeling is surprisingly liberating.

At work, I try to keep my writing space as clean and clutter free as possible. I try as much as possible in making sure the desktop looks clear before I leave, so that I can “start afresh” the next morning. Of course, being a hoarder at heart, there are quite a bit of things “hoarded” underneath my table. But at least, I get a clean table now, which allows me to think slightly more “clearly” than before.

My MUJI notebook, my sheets of “planning blocks” and my postits and highlighters are about the most important thing that I use every part of the day. It helps me clear my thoughts on the things that needs to be done, the process and steps I need to get through before I get the “end-product” done. And I must say, this system is working pretty well for me and I simply love it. Credits to the “personal organising” workshop that I attended; and the book “Sorted” for the idea on a blank notebook (only use the right side) and strike off tasks that are done with highlighter).


I was just thinking about self-esteem and confidence the other day. Simply because I admit I have a pretty low self-esteem, and although sometimes I may look “stuckup” but that’s because of my own insecurities. And I cared too much about what others think of me. WAY too much. My personal reflection in this area is that low self-esteem somehow make us have a less than desirable opinion of ourselves. And it projects our thinking into the feeling of insecurity, inferiority and that people do not think much about us. That we are not pretty enough, not friendly enough, not sociable enough. And while doing that, negative vibes comes along and tries to “help us out” by thinking negatively of others, although we may even be envious of whatever they are or had, without realising it. This low self-esteem prevents us from truly being able to connect with others. I found out that all I had to do, was to remind myself of my own strength and the “goodness” I had in me. That kind of gave me a little confidence boost.

That’s just a small little sense of achievement for me so far for now. There is still so much to do. My wardrobe is waiting to be ransacked and clothes are waiting to be picked and given to people who needs them more. And I’ve got my dressing table which looks slightly “cleaner” than before mainly because there are 2 other smaller trays of cosmetics and skincare product placed on the floor in front of my bookshelves.

One last reflection: possibilities are endless. ^^,

Counting down 12 days to the first big event at work and the feeling of freedom after that! (before the next project comes along!) 🙂



Written by Jindy

March 26th, 2011 at 10:44 pm

The Simple Things in Life

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I found the following image from Martha Stewart’s website.

Picture from marthastewart.com

It’s a simple picnic basket that appeals to me a lot. I’ve always wanted to do that, but the weather in Singapore is just not as conducive to have a nice lazy afternoon for a picnic.

Anyways, it will be something I look forward to after I’ve make some progress with the project decluttering. 🙂

Have a great day and a great week and and great month ahead!

Written by Jindy

January 4th, 2011 at 10:36 am

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Review & Reflection of 2010, Looking forward for 2011!

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1. It’s been a really good year this year – with a few exciting events & major milestones in my life

a) We bought our HDB flat (next door to my parents) – for future convenience, for the government’s $40K HDB grant, and all the nice reasons

b) And because of Point A, I’m happily and legally married to KS (my best friend, boyfriend turned hubby & 24 hour IT support *laughs*)

c) But we are not customarily wed (and hence we are in a half-married stage of “legally married, but unwed”). As such, we are now in another happy stage, planning and discussing (amongst ourselves and with our families and friends) for our upcoming wedding on 24 Dec 2011!

d) and 2011 will be quite exciting as we look forward and plan for the life that we will lead together with the 2 of us, and our families.

2. Things to be thankful and appreciative for:

a) Parents and families who love us the way we are – with our strengths, our flaws and weaknesses; all their love and support which made all the difference

b) Our families who are happy, healthy and safe

c) To have great colleagues and a safe and nice working enviroment

d) To have my graduation projects carried out smoothly despite little little set backs and issues along the way

e) To have a great friend and mentor in Sharon – to discuss work, ideas and everything else!

f) To have very fun loving friends – to go for walks and such, and to have them looking forward to my wedding as much as we do!

g) To have grandma still active and healthy (just wished she was a little more positive)

h) To have so much to be thankful, grateful and appreciative of – and that both of us are so blessed in every way!

3. Looking forward to 2011

I’m really really thankful and grateful for all the things that have happened in my life (with all the good and bad).And it has been great to know that we are able to control, determine and uncover who we are and who we want to be.

Seems like I have been exposed to the elements of “Eat, Pray, Love” and hope to have more of that in 2011

  • Thankful for my mom and dad for introducing and exposing us to Buddhism, meditation, yoga, exercise and health.
  • Thankful for KS’s parents for showing us what are the possible pleasures in life.
  • Thankful for the rest of the people in our lives, such that we are able to observe and learn more about relationships, communication
  • Thankful to the wonderful bloggers and writers of Minimalism – for they have deeply inspired me (us) to move towards that style of living
  • Especially thankful to the life coach, Ms Elisabetta Franzoso, whom I’ve met during a workshop on communication, but the workshop was more than that. It was about “inside out”, observing ourselves and being more aware of ourselves, and our existence, and whose simple theory of the “ice berg” affects how we can look at ourselves, others, and the things that are happening around us.

a) To embrace the minimalist lifestyle – to continue with Project Declutter for my room and for KS’s room.

  • I am looking forward to regaining those “empty spaces” in our living spaces – for the air, energy and creativity to flow and circulate more easily and freely
  • Looking forward to a more efficient and organized system of managing our stuff
  • To spend more time with people that matter more to us (our family and friends)
  • To spend time on things that we love to do
  • And to enjoy the simplest of the simplest of pleasures in life, such as a nice cup of tea and a book to read, and each other’s company on a lazy weekend afternoon

b) To enjoy and look at the positive side of my work and job – focussing on passion, sense of pride and achievement at the end of the day

  • Would love to start the first week of work in 2011 in clearing up the loose ends for my workstation – the leftover filing of documents, and the clearing up of unnecessary items and clutter
  • This is in hope of creating that “space” for thinking, planning, creativity and imagination
  • And in the process become more productive and efficient
  • To create a system that allows me to constantly “put things away”

c) To drink plenty of water everyday, and to do yoga weekly and go for weekly walks or jogs.

d) To lead a peaceful, carefree life!

Everything seems to be in place for a great 2011!

Cheers to all and here’s wishing everyone a Happy Happy New year and to a great year ahead!

Written by Jindy

January 2nd, 2011 at 5:46 pm

Inspiration from Operation Beautiful

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I chance upon a website www.operationbeautiful.com where random people (from all around the world) took a piece of scrap paper or post-it, wrote a nice message, and stuck it on the mirrors, in public restrooms, etc.

This is quite an inspiration because, believe it or not, even simple little gestures like this can make someone’s day.

Sometimes, we may have a bad day at work, at school, or we just feel down, low or depressed about ourselves, we can help to remind ourselves and others, of our uniqueness, our smile and the little things that makes us who we are.

After reading and seeing others pictures, I was inspired to do the same. Hence, I took out a few piece of post-its and wrote down a message copied from the website. I gave  one each to Sharon and Mida. One of them, I stuck it on the mirror in the staff lounge’s ladies and the other I stuck it on the napkin dispenser in the pantry.

I was a little scared and excited at the same time when I stuck the post-its in the public areas, not knowing how people will take it. However, afterwards, I had this feeling of pride and happiness that I was hopefully making a little difference. And it felt really really good. I was on a slight “high” the whole day at work, feeling happy, and productive. It was as though I did something good.

Here are 2 photos taken with the iPhone and I would like to share them.


Post-it on the napkin dispenser

Post-it on the mirror in the restroom

Smile...you look GREAT today!

Written by Jindy

January 2nd, 2011 at 4:23 pm

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